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my most recent date, or what the hell is wrong with you, man

19 Aug

lovelies,
i’ve very recently gone on a date that was not all that. actually, it really sucked. big time. after it was over i felt like going home, curl up on my bed and cry into my cat’s fur- he wouldn’t have liked it, but he’d take one for the team, i’m sure.
how did it come to the date? well, a friend of mine suggested i get ”tinder”. it’s an app that locates people in your vicinity with the same application. it’s very woman friendly, as you get to ”like” or ”nope” the people that show up on your locator feed, before they see your profile. basically, if you ”like” someone, only then they can see your profile. once there’s a ”match” (both liked eachother), you can start chatting. my girls and i installed it- just for fun, of course! r-TINDER-large570
after some browsing through the app, this blurry picture of a guy’s profile shows up. despite the blur, i felt like there was something i can work with- i could see just about enough of him to give it a go. what do you know- it was a match!
we get to chitchatting, mainly about what we do to keep cool in the crazy heat we had in vienna. i mentioned going for viennese ice coffee was a regular thing besides being poolside most of the day, and he suggested to meet up for a coffee. he seemed nice enough, so i agreed. we set for the next day, early afternoon. around noon that day, he texts about trouble at work, and if we can postpone to the next day. sure! no problems, sunday afternoon it is!
right, i’m getting ready to go meet this guy, i choose a cute yet effortless outfit of dark denim shorts with tiny little white stars, and a blush pink cami top. we were set to meet at 4 pm- we were only meeting for half an hour, as he had plans with friends and was catching a plane later that evening- totally fine for a first date. at 3:55 he texts me ”if i know how long i’m going to be”.
ummm, ok… it’s not that i’m late, and was just around the corner, so i text back ”2 mins”. once at the cafe, i perform a quick scan of the place but don’t spot someone that could be my blurry date, so i text him that i’m there, and am finding a place to sit. maybe he is running late, that’s why he asked how long i was going to be…
as soon as i sit and whip out my phone, i hear chairs moving and a figure appears by the table. i look up, and the guy asks: ”nadia?”
two thoughts cross my mind instantly- 1. we’ve been texting for two days, the name of the user is right at the top of every chat window- and you STILL get my name wrong? what the hell is wrong with you, man?
2. i’ve seen this guy during my scan! but dismissed him right away because he looks sixteen, not 28!
whatever, i’ll give him the benefit of the doubt, even if i’m a little irritated, stand up and shake his hand, saying ”it’s nadine actually, but close enough i guess.” as soon as he sits down, he asks me if i’m still up for ice coffee, as it’s not that hot anymore. given that it still was 29 degrees C, i was seriously wondering if this guy just has a pretty lame sense of humor, or if he’s serious. i told him i thought it was warm enough to still get two scoops of vanilla ice cream in coffee, yes.

viennese ice coffee

viennese ice coffee

moments later the waitress shows up, and wants to take our order. he asks her if they served ice coffee, she says ”yes of course”! then, he asks how much it costs. when she answers 5 euros, he deems it a fair price, as he says ”thats ok, i’d like an ice coffee”. i’m honestly speechless by now. seriously, how much did you think it was going to cost? this guy is not doing himself any favors…
i proceed with ordering one too, and try to start a conversation. i ask what kind of job entails an emergency on a saturday afternoon, and he informs me that he ”actually lives and works in london, but is in vienna for business over the weekend.” is this guy for real? how in any way, is that an answer to my question? so i make myself clearer: ”what is it that you do?” ” oh finance, investment blablablabla (don’t actually remember, i was so fascinated, obviously), but i don’t really want to talk about what i do, as it doesn’t have a very good reputation. what do you do?” so i tell him that i’m in between jobs right now, and enjoying the summer, but that i used to work at a bank in the communications sector, and didn’t really like it. at that, he proceeds to freely recount how the firm he works at just pulled a gajillion euro deal with said bank, and just keeps on going on and on about money and work… i’m sorry, didn’t you not want to talk about work? why am i being treated to such a riveting tale?
when he’s done, he asks me if i’m still going to the pool today. i answer that it’s too late now, but that i was looking forward to spending the whole next day in the water. you know what his next question is? ”when do you get off work?” i kind of blankly stare at him at this point, and explain very slowly that right now, i’m not working, but when i used to work, i would get off around 5 pm. wow. did this guy not listen to a word i said? what is wrong with you, man!?
as the allotted time for the date comes to an end, i’m beyond happy, and when he starts getting antsy, i beckon the waitress over so that we can pay and i can get the hell out of there. needless to say, he doesn’t even attempt to stop me paying for my own ice coffee, and proceeds to pay for his own. don’t get me wrong, i really didn’t want him to pay for it, but it’s about the gesture, the principle of gallantry- no, not gallantry, manners!
when we walk out, he suggests we should add eachother on facebook- i say sure, but my mind is saying no way. i ask him for his last name. ”i’ll whatsapp it to you.” wow. such mystery. not for the first time, but what is wrong with you, man!?
at the end, he looks for a car2go, and i spot one across the street; when he makes no move to go to it, i ask him ”don’t you need it? well then bye!” we shake hands, and i speedwalk into the distance.

this is the second date i’ve been on recently, and even though the first one was great, but sadly there was absolutely no chemistry, this date made me feel really frustrated, disappointed, sad, and most of all hopeless. where are all the good guys? taken. or gay. or just want to be friends. isn’t that great? time to get another cat, i think. or maybe i should spice it up with something a little more exotic like a chinchilla or a mini horse. i think my cats would like that.

hello, i'm your new roommate!

hello, i’m your new roommate!

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the next step

14 Dec

lovelies, as you know, i am not particularly fond of my job.

it’s not fulfilling nor challenging me, and it sure as hell isn’t interesting.
usually, at least the co-workers are a highlight… well, mine aren’t. save for maybe two people, i really don’t care much about any of them. doesn’t sound like much fun, right?

3rndhx

i am very happy to tell you, that today is my last day at work.

i handed in my resignation three weeks ago. the feeling i got when i walked out of my boss’ office was of sheer joy and relief. i took that as a good sign.

suddenly my work ethic and outlook changed- i became more relaxed and focused, fending off the negative feelings, because i knew that there was a time limit. every day i chanted a little mantra of “only x more days to go”- believe me, it worked like magic! i was no longer bothered by my colleagues, or the petty things happening at the office. a calmness enveloped me, ever since i made my decision, and it’s a wonderful feeling.
i might walk out the building dancing the macarena, who knows. maybe i’ll hop out gangnam style.

it’s really not worth it, doing a job you despise. of course everyone needs the money. but there has to be some quality of life left. one shouldn’t have to dread going to work every morning of every day, it’s just such a heavy chunk of negativity to carry- it will eventually bring you down. and i don’t want that for myself. i could almost see my joie de vivre dissipate, month after month, and decided it can’t go on like that- i refuse to lose my energy and positivity because of a job. just no.

so now the job search begins again. i’m not picky, i have a wide range of interests and capabilities and i’m a quick learner- i like to think of myself as quite versatile. i don’t expect to find my absolute dream job, where i will be so happy i don’t want to go home, but i’ve learned my lesson: i need a job where i have at least the slightest interest in the subject, or where i can honestly say “i’m ok with doing this for the next x years”.
it’s not going to be easy, but i’m looking forward to the challenge.

has anyone of you been in a similar situation?
have you quit your job before, because you were unhappy with it?
i would love to hear your stories!

*zumba*

4 Jul

hola chicas y chicos!

yesterday, i went to my first ever zumba class! i entered the studio trying to keep my expectations low- i’d heard so much about this activity, i didn’t want to play it up in my head and eventually be disappointed. seriously, when people say “omg it was so amazing!”, “it’s like- so much fun!” i would always think along the lines of “people, relax pls… it’s a workout, how much genuine, real fun could it actually be?” turns out it really is so much fun. whilst sweating, trying to keep up with the otherworldly instructor, (seriously, she must be an alien to be so graceful and sexy while teaching a workout) i was grinning like the cheshire cat and laughing for the whole hour. and not only because i felt like these girls

my reflection in the mirror while doing zumba

 but also because of the latin music and the general feel-good-vibe of all the girls there- it was awesome!

At first I was like “I’m so gonna make a fool out of myself”, but upon closer inspection, there was a reeeally wide range of capabilities in that studio. Some girls seemed to have been doing zumba for a while, others were even worse off than me (muahaha). But everyone was smiling and laughing, and simply didn’t care. I like it.

the class was mixed! *google pic- not us*

what i liked even more, is the amount of sweat i exuded. and i’m not talking about a glistening forehead- no, this was full on- fuck-it’s-getting-in-my-eyes sweating! for clarification purposes, a list of body parts that sweat when doing zumba:

– face
– neck
– arms
– chest
– stomach
– back
– shoulders
– legs, including knees and shins. Yes, I didn’t know they could sweat either.
– butt

body parts that don’t sweat:

– nails
– ponytail

if you’re looking for a fun, feel-good workout, that doesn’t feel like a workout but like a really hardcore dance class- look no more, and go sign up at your nearest zumba center.

*sunshine award nomination*

15 May

holy moly!
was my reaction today, when i saw that the lovely julia from my fashionable day nominated me for the *sunshine award* !

this is my first nomination ever since i’ve started blogging in december, and i’m so honored and happy!

i know the work outfit posts are long overdue, but i’m just so excited, i have to do this one first!

these are the steps to follow:

  • Include the award’s logo in a post on your blog
  • Answer 1o questions about yourself
  • Nominate 10 other bloggers
  • Link your nominees to the post and comment on their blogs, letting them know they have been nominated
  • Share the love and link the person who nominated you

step 1:

sunshine award logo

the 10 personal questions are:

1. Favorite Color? (all shades of) pink, mint and black.

2. Favorite hobbies or activitiesfashion, movies, shows, reading, hanging out with friends, writing, horsebackriding and basketball.

3. What kind of pet do I have/favorite animal? i have 3 adorable cats, and my favorite animals are cats, dogs and horses (the list goes on, but these are top 3).

4. Why do I  love fashion? because fashion is a form of self expression, of beauty, creativity and freedom- what’s not to love?

5. Favorite drink? water, grape juice, tea, milk and bubble tea. mojito, gin n tonic, asti and red wine are my favorite alcoholic drinks.

6. Favorite food? salad, pizza, steak, egyptian food, sandwiches (including burgers).

7. Favorite number? 4

8. Favorite pattern? leopard (in all colors), aztec and lace.

9. Facebook or twitter? both, but facebook is my favorite.

10. Favorite cupcake flavor? red velvet, vanilla and my awesome cocoa-white chocolate chip-raspberry.


the bloggers i nominate for the sunshine award are:

love and a six-foot leash

kitties + couture

chocolate and raspberries

into mind

julia’s styleutopia

hungry hinny

don’t ask me to smile

sally’s baking addiction

out damn swatch

the modern man


all these blogs are amazing in their own way. some are purely fashion, some strictly baking, others are about animals, many are a vivid mix- but one thing is for certain- they all are a beautiful, inspirational, informative and entertaining read!

thank you again julia for this great opportunity and honor!

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